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    November 14

    Lost Children Of Parents whose Rights have been terminated

    Lost Children of Parents Whose Rights Have Been Terminated

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    Please don't take my child away from me. Give me a chance to be a mother. Don't judge us because we are disabled, black, white, yellow, or red. Give us what we need to keep our children with us so they don't become a lost child or a throw away child because they can't live up to their adopter's expectations.

    Please don't make us make the choice between our husbands, wives, and children and we choose our spouse we will lose our children.

    Adoption is a vile act and vile act that makes millions of children dysfunctional each year with adoptive child syndrome.

    Give us the "true and natural" parents a chance to raise our children. Don't judge us because we are poor, ecomonically disadvantaged, disabled.

    God does not approve of adoption, he never meant to have families separated.

    Give the "true and natural parents the ones created by God and Nature a chance to raise our children and dont' turn our children in paper orphans.

    Widow By The Lake

    Exiled mother: A natural mother who has lost her child to adoption solely because of her age and/or lack of support, information or resources. An unrecognized mother, she has been thrown away, banished and discarded by her parents, the adoption industry and society, who deemed her unworthy to raise her own child.


    What does the Bible say about adoption?

    "THE WICKED SNATCH FATHERLESS CHILDREN FROM THEIR MOTHER'S BREASTS, AND TAKE A POOR MAN'S BABY AS A PLEDGE BEFORE THEY WILL LOAN HIM ANY MONEY OR GRAIN" --Job 24:9--

    May 12

    Ma Coeur est fracture

     

     

    Je suis maison aujourd’hui parce que Je faire ne pas avoir pour aller dans ma santé mentale programme Je Suis joyeux environ elle.

    Je se sentir cruex quand Je aller la et voir tout le autre client la aussi que se sentir la même chose que Je faire.

     

    Je conté ma santé mentale conseiller que Je vouloir ne pas être queue après ma 51st anniversaire que être Juin 14.

     

    Elle étais ne pas très joyeux environ que Je conté la hier

    Aujourd’hui être Vendredi et Je Suis aller pour essai pour travailler dans ma livre.

    Je avoir pas plus pour dire tantôt.

    Je pleurer tout nuit parce que ma coeur être fracture parce que ma famille a’ faire pour me.

    Comment une personne aller en vie quand le plus de important chose a’ étais prendre de la Dire me.

     

    Lucie Elizabeth Ann

    May 13

    Category: Child Protection Information - Parent's Can Use

    REUNIFICATION PLANS: RECIPES FOR FAILURE

    Kevin Norell is one of the newer foster care caseworkers in the Utah Division of Child and Family Services, hired to satisfy child-welfare reform laws and the terms of a recent lawsuit settlement in Utah.

    According to Norell, the state asks a lot of parents who want their children returned home. They have to find a job, find housing, all of which can be "tough to do for anyone in Salt Lake County." Parents are ordered into therapy, parenting classes, perhaps drug rehabilitation, and they have to find time to visit with their children.

    "Even an organized parent might have trouble with all that. And many of these parents are anything but organized," says Morell.[1]

    The intent behind court ordered reunification plans may be admirable, but the reality appears to be that many plans are designed for failure, according to the 1991-1992 San Diego Grand Jury:

    Testimony was received regarding the hours of time which must be spent in order to comply with these plans. Defense attorneys have testified that they have told clients that it is impossible for them to work and comply with reunification. Judges and referees were observed, seemingly without thought, ordering parents into programs which require more than 40 hours per week. Frequently, these parents have only public transportation. Obviously, there is no time to earn a living or otherwise live a life. A parent often becomes a slave to the reunification plan.[2]

    On April 20, 1993, a Florida father entered into such a "performance agreement" with the Florida Department of Health and Human Resources. The performance agreement, which is now referred to as a "case plan" pursuant to revisions in the Florida statutes, required the father to perform nine tasks to be reunified with his child:

    • (1) completion of an abuse counseling program and its recommendations;

    • (2) completion of a psychological evaluation and its recommendations;

    • (3) completion of a parenting program and demonstration of proficiency in parenting skills;

    • (4) evaluation for anger management and follow recommendations;

    • (5) evaluation for individual counseling and follow recommendations;

    • (6) monthly contact with HRS;

    • (7) follow reasonable requests and recommendations of the supervising counselor;

    • (8) provide HRS a list of relatives, their addresses, and phone numbers; and

    • (9) maintain adequate housing and demonstrate financial ability to provide for the child.

    The father, through sheer determination, managed to comply with the provisions of the performance agreement. But was HRS satisfied with the result?

    On November 22, 1994, HRS filed a motion for change of goal, requesting that the father's rights regarding the child be terminated because he had 'failed to benefit from services in a reasonable length of time.'
    The lower court, on this basis, terminated the father's parental rights. The determined father appealed to the District Court of Appeal. On March 22, 1996, the Court of Appeal reversed the decision of the lower court, holding that HRS had not met its burden of proof. The case was remanded for further proceedings. By this time, the child had been in foster care for three years.[3]

    In another recent case, HRS filed a petition to declare a child dependent, and to terminate the parental rights of the mother. The lower court dismissed the petition, as it failed to allege any abuse or neglect.

    The Court of Appeal ruled that abuse or neglect need not be alleged, and that the lower Court was in error holding that it could not terminate parental rights on the ground that HRS had alleged only that the mother failed to comply substantially with her performance agreements:

    Florida Rule of Juvenile Procedure 8.500(b) provides that the only substantive allegation required in a termination petition, aside from the parents' and child's identities, etc., is that 'the parents were offered a performance agreement or permanent placement plan and did not substantially comply with it,' when required by law. The petitions conformed with this requirement.[4]

    In most states, allegations of abuse or neglect are not necessary to remove a child, or to permanently sever parental rights. In virtually every state, the laws have been constructed in such a way as to allow the removal of children on the basis that they may be abused or neglected at some point in the future.

    In the State of Montana, for example, temporary removal orders require the department only "to submit to the court facts establishing a probable cause that a youth is abused or neglected or is in danger of being abused or neglected."

    According to a recent judicial assessment of the Montana juvenile justice system, such treatment plans are often implemented early during the proceedings, even though a child may not have been adjudicated "a youth in need of care."

    "Adjudication provides the basis for state intervention in a family," reviewers note. "Therefore, enforcement of treatment which is not required for the immediate protection of the child... is an inappropriate exercise of the state's power."

    Citing state law, assessment reviewers explain the dire consequences of failure to complete the "treatment plan" constructed by the department of social services:

    the failure of a parent or guardian to participate in, comply with, in whole or in part, or to meet the goals of the treatment plan is prima facie evidence that return of the child to the parent or guardian would be detrimental.[5]
    Incredibly, rulings like this can be found throughout the states.

    In California, an often-applied ruling used to terminate the parental rights of parents who simply refuse to comply with social worker demands that they attend "treatment" or "therapy" reads:

    the failure of the parent or guardian to participate in any court-ordered treatment programs shall constitute prima facie evidence that return [of the child] would be detrimental.[6]
    Hence, the refusal to participate in these programs will result in the permanent separation of a child from his parents--whether or not any maltreatment had actually occurred.

    In examining studies conducted by the American Humane Association during the mid-1980s, Dana Mack of the Institute for American Values found that half of the families that child welfare agencies compelled to undergo therapeutic services for child maltreatment never mistreated their children at all, and that many removals of children are capricious actions of "preventive intervention," based on a caseworker's presumption that although abuse may not have occurred, it may at some time in the future.[7]

    Even for those parents who comply with the reunification terms, the state has another way of using these plans to terminate parental rights.

    The laws throughout the states are written in such a way that "failure to substantially comply with the terms of the performance agreement," or "failure to derive benefit from the services provided by the Department" are reason enough to have children permanently separated from their parents, once they have become dependents of the court.

    In a recent Minnesota case, for example, the "disposition plan" for reunification included the following elements:

    • (1) that appellants work with a housekeeper provided by the county to maintain the housekeeping standard from week to week;

    • (2) that appellants cooperate with an assessment and goals as determined by an in-home skills counselor, to provide a safe, clean, and organized living environment for the family;

    • (3) that prior to reunification, the home environment will have an adequate level of housekeeping, as determined by the social worker and public health nurse;

    • (4) that appellants keep all scheduled appointments with service providers or cancel and reschedule appointments in a timely manner;

    • (5) that appellants complete individual psychological and psychiatric evaluations and follow all recommendations;

    • (6) that appellants attend individual therapy to determine and address issues of depression, grief, and loss, and other issues as may be recommended by the treating therapist;

    • (7) that appellants cooperate and work with the assigned financial worker from the county and comply with the budget or recommendations of the financial worker;

    • (8) that appellants follow all recommendations of [the child's] treating physicians and keep all appointments with the home health aide for the purpose of childcare, nutrition, and bathing; and

    • (9) that appellants maintain a working telephone in the residence at all times.[8]

    The sad reality is that abuse or neglect need not be demonstrated. Simple failure to maintain a purely subjective housekeeping standard, the missing of an appointment, failure to "adequately assimilate" budgeting skills, or the disconnection of a telephone can result in the permanent separation of a child from his or her parents.

    In most states, social workers have been granted the authority to construct these reunification plans at their sole discretion. And, there is precious little oversight from the courts in the construction of these plans.

    Montana reviewers found that most judges rarely issue orders or make recommendations addressing reunification or treatment plans, finding also that: "Some judges assert that it is appropriate for the courts to defer to the department's expertise in these matters because of the social workers' experience and education."

    One judge reported that while he often orders parents to take parenting classes, he does not actually know what those classes entail!

    Hence, the construction of these plans is left to social workers who typically have precious little training, oversight or experience.

    Worse, over half of counsel representing parents said that they seldom receive information from service providers or the department regarding the availability of services. Reviewers determined that: "Parents' counsel are, therefore, unable to to effectively challenge the appropriateness of a treatment plan."[9]

    Personal bias or prejudice often play a role in how these plans are constructed.

    Veteran Juvenile Court Judge Judy Sheindlin recounts the story of one young couple named Robin and Tim. Robin had two children before she met Tim. She also had a drug problem. City caseworkers stepped in and removed her three children when the third was born with cocaine in her system.

    Tim, who was separated from Robin, lived at home with his parents and his brother, all of whom were employed. Judge Sheindlin describes the obstacles Tim had to face when he sought custody of his child:

    First, he had to establish paternity, proving that he was the biological father of his child. Tim did this. Next, the caseworkers told him that before he could even be considered for custody, he had to take parenting classes. He had to provide the name of the person who would be caring for his child while he worked during the day. He had to establish a permanent, independent residence. There was not a scintilla of evidence that he was an unfit parent, but these were the rules that Tim had to follow. He met all of the conditions.

    Meanwhile, Robin the drug addict had it easy. All she had to do was enroll herself in a drug treatment program and get on welfare. That, my friends, was it.

    When Judge Sheindlin asked the caseworker about this obvious gender disparity, her answer was simply: "Well, she's the mother."[10]

    The San Diego Grand Jury confirmed that these plans are sometimes intentionally made impossible to prevent reunification:

    Failure to comply with any element of a reunification plan is sufficient for termination of parental rights. We have taken testimony from attorneys, court appointed therapists, and social workers, that some of these plans are intentionally made impossible, particularly when infants or toddlers are involved.

    Chief Administrative Officer Norman Hickey conducted an independent investigation of the San Diego Department of Social Services. His report confirmed the San Diego Grand Jury findings, following on the heels of another stinging critique of the system by the county's Juvenile Justice Commission.

    The system is too demanding of the parents, distracting them from more important issues, he wrote. "Too many tasks or unproductive requirements overwhelm parents and reduce the potential for priority behavioral change."

    His report also indicated that foster parents may try to thwart reunification efforts. "A desire to take care of the child on a permanent basis must not be permitted to work against the parent's goal" of reunification.[11]

    The Juvenile Justice Commission examined several troubling cases in which social workers sought to prevent reunification of children with their parents. They found such cases in their representative sampling to be "numerous and diverse."

    In one such case, a social worker threatened that a child would be removed from the mother's home if she allowed the child to attend a scheduled birthday party with her father in a public place. She further advised the mother to move to another part of the County, and keep her whereabouts unknown to the father.

    In another case, a social worker sought to prevent the development of ties between a child and her maternal aunt, even though the aunt was known to the worker as a licensed foster mother. The worker sought instead to maintain the child in a foster home in which the foster parents had expressed a desire to adopt the child.

    "The unwillingness of the Children's Services Bureau staff, from line to administrative, to listen to opposing views to the point of being hostile and threatening has resulted in a backlash from the community, as well as tragic consequences for families," the Commission found.

    "Court time and real time are world's apart, so that while a case drags on from week to week and month to month, the agony of separation continues," the Commission concluded. "While Court cases often require lengthy investigation and preparation to ensure due process of law to all involved, it must never be forgotten that these cases are ultimately about living, breathing human beings."[12]

    Category: Family: What to Place In Your Child's Dossier

    This may happen at anytime to any parent across the United States. It can happen to Afro-Americans, Asian-Americans,
    Hispanics, or White Parents across this great nation of ours.   Please don't under estimate the Power of State Child Protection Services.  
     
    Last decade, beginning in the late seventies, eighties, and beyond. The United States Department of Human Services/Administration of Children and Family gave State Child Protection Services more power than they needed
    to turn around and desecrate the "True and Natural" Family. The Family that is created by God and Nature & not the state adoption law and the multimillion adoption industry.
     
    The 1980 Child Protection Witch hunts across the U.S. allowed CPS agencies to come in and remove children from their
    "true and natural" parents care, custody, and control,  and place almost impossible to do Reunification Plans on the parents. If the parents did not complete said Reunification plans.  The ACF gave the State Juvenile Courts the rights to go on a head and involuntarily terminate the parental rights of many thousands of innocent parents.
     
    Most of these parents are poor. Most of the parents had to rely on inadequate legal representation granted to them through Court Appointed Attorneys, who would kiss ass and only do a minimal amount of legal work for the poor and needy parents who became victims of Child Protection Services.
     
    Not only did the parents become victims- but also the child become victims of Child Protection Services.  Children were carted away and placed into foster care homes.  Once the children were placed into foster care. The CPS time clock started to tick away.   Parents were given just so much time to complete a Reunification plan.   These plans usually given to the parents were meant to be completed within 15 months. 
     
    When the parents did not complete the Reunification plan in 15 months and the children remained in foster care for more than 15 months but no longer than 22 months. This gave the State the right to petition the Juvenile Court to terminate the parental rights and make the child eligible for adoption.
     
    Parents were being targeted because they were poor, single, economically disadvantaged. Some parents were disabled. If they were they were target parents who were disabled due to a mental disability.  The state would cite that these parents  were mentally ill and deficient.   Some of the parents were single, white mothers.  The states knew that there were plenty of white infertile couples looking to adopt a white child under the age of five years old.
     
    Afro-American single mothers were targeted. This is because the state can get extra dollars for placing Afro-American children in to foster homes.   The state and foster parents would come out at the winners.
     
    Reunification plans were often standard through out all the states.   Many would expect parents to take time off from work and attending, Parenting classes, angry management classes,  psycho-therapy, and anything else they can make the
    parents do against their will.
     
    Failing to complete said Reunification plan can lead to termination of parental rights.
     
    The "Best Interest of The Child" standard is the only ground the state can terminate with the grounds of "preponderance of the evidence".  It is the lowest degree of evidence that is needed in a civil suit.
    All of grounds require the standard of proof which is "Clear and Convincing" evidence.
     
    Some of the grounds they can terminate your parental rights are:
     
    1. Failure of reasonable efforts
    2. Mental Illness and Deficiency
    3. Abandonment
    4. Failure to provide support
    5. Lack of Interest in the Child
    6. If a child is in foster care for 15 out of most 22 recent months
    7. A Child adjudged in need of services or dependency
    8. Child Abuse ( any degree)
    9. Child Neglect in which this includes, educational, medical, or otherwise.
    10. Substantial Risk of Harm
     
    And there is many others.
     
    No one state has the same "Best Interest of The Child" standard. Every state defines it differently.
     
    These Reunification plans are a recipe to failure by the way.  They are designed to fail not succeed.
     
    Once a child is placed into state care.  The state can start to create a case against the parents.
    Possession is ninth/tenth of the law.
     
    Many parents are poor and live below federal poverty guidelines. The State must provide an attorney at no
    charge if the parents can not afford one. These Public Defenders only do a minimum of work on the parent's behalf.
    Whereas if the parents can afford their own attorney.  The attorney would be being paid to protect the parents
    constitutional rights.
     
    If your parental rights should be terminated and it does open the door for your child who is now created a
    legal orphan to be placed on the state adoption waiting list.    This is the time you must ask your attorney
    that your side of the story leading to the removal of the child from your care is placed in the child's dossier.
     
    Your side of the story should have as much details as possible. Explain everything.  Make no confessions that
    you are guilty of anything. That the state only came in and interferred in your lives because your only fault
    was being poor and living in poverty which they say created a risk of harm to you.
     
    The State's side of the story which is placed in your child's dossier and is given to the prospect adopters
    may make you sound like the monster when it is far from the truth.   The State, The GAL, The Foster Care workers,
    Social Wreckers, Judges, and adopters will try to turn into a monster and make your own child or children hate you.
     
    Getting our side of events into the Child's dossier is very important.  
     
    Child Protection Services is not about saving children. It is about tax dollars being given to the state for
    terminating parental rights of parents and finding that child a new home which the state deems better
    than the one they came out of.
     
    Wrongful Adoption Litigation is going across the country.   This is when Adopters are not told the truth about
    the child they are adopting and all of their health needs.   Adopters are allow to terminate their own parental rights
    and place the child they adopt back into the same child welfare system they have taken the child out of in the first place.
     
    Adoption no longer means "To take as one's own".  Don't be deceive.
     
    Lucie Elizabeth Ann

    Reuions Do Go Wrong Between True and Natural Parents and Their Adult Adoptee Children

    There is no "bad" reunion when adoptees can at least know the truth of their existence, their connection to the generations before them-they can become grounded in reality, not myth and fantasy.
     
     
     
    I have to disagree with the above statement about No Such Thing As bad reunions between adult adoptees and their "true and natural"parents.
     
    One too many "true and natural" parents in particular "mothers" get hurt many times over when they are finally reunited with the children they lose either voluntarily or involuntarily.  This is because the adult adoptee may or may not be mature or mentally or intellecutally capable of understanding the events surrounding the reasons why their "true and natural" parents had to give them up for adoption.
     
    I can not explain why any parent would willingly surrender their parental rights to their child. However, it is whole another ball game when the parents become victims of Child Protection Services and lose their parental rights involuntarily to their
    children.
     
    Some states may allow the "true and natural" mother to place a letter into the
    Child's docile explaining why the "true and natural" mother had to place them up for adoption.  However, any parent who becomes victim to Child Protection Services is not allowed to place a letter written to the child they have lost due to involuntarily termination of their parental rights.
     
    The child's life story which is placed into the docile written by the State Child Protection Services has a missing part in the file which is given to the adoptive parents giving them information that lead up to the "true and natural" parents losing their parental rights to their child or children.
     
    Once the child becomes a legal adult may or may not be shown the docile that the state gave to their adoptive parents.  Most likely it is only one-sided. The one side is given by the State.  The other side -the parent's side is ommitted.
     
    How is an adult adoptee who is also a victim of Child Protection Services suppose to be given the truth if their "true and natural" parents side of events is ommitted.
     
    Adoptees who reconnect with their past will be "opening up a can of worms" that will have a negative impact.
     
     
     
    This may be true or may not be true. It just depends upon the maturity of the child once he/she becomes a
    legal adult.  Some of it can lead up to be a positive impact. Some of it can lead up to be a negative impact.
     
    The "true and natural" parents need to determine the real reason why their adult adoptee child is even looking for them.  What will achieved if they reunite after so many years. What does the adult adoptee want from
    their "true and natural" parents or just "birth"mother.
     
    Will this reunion lead up to positive reunion between "true and natural" parents or a negative one. When the adult adoptee just wants to use the "true and natural" parents and make them feel gulity about placing them
    up for adoption.
     
    I,believe the best way for a "true and natural" parent or Mother to reunite with her adult adoptee child is
    either via  Telephone, US Mail, or E-mail.  Face to Face Reunions can often hurt the "true and natural" mother and lead up to more hurt then she experienced before.
     
    My own personal face to face reunions with my forced created adoptee daughter, Rebecca, achieved nothing.
    I came away feeling empty and totally exhausted. Sometimes I wish we had never met.  Rebecca will never have the mental or intellectually capability of understanding the events that lead to Her dad and me losing our parental rights to her in 1983.
     
    Roy and I never got over the heart break and lost of losing Rebecca to the state and her placement with her adoptive family, which CPS assured me they were fully capable of raising and caring for a handicap child. Later on they regretted adopting Rebecca and made it very clear that they resented having to pay out of their pockets so much money in psychiatric care.
     
    If you would like to learn Child Protection and Legal Terminology used by CPS please join the group at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ChildProtectionandLegalTerminology
     
    Thanks in Advance,
    Lucie Elizabeth Ann
    May 07

    The Tale of A Heart Broken Mother

    My second ex, Roy L. Mock and I were both unfairly targeted by Child Protection Services back in the 1980's.  They called this "The Child Protection Witch-hunts" of the 198O's.

    Many parents were targets and many parents lost their children to the State Child Welfare system just on the grounds of "substantial risk of harm" which is the equivalent of what the State defines as "poverty" in their eyes.

    Rather than giving the "true and natural" parents the help they needed to keep their families together. They imposed on them reunification plans that were impossible to complete with in the alloted time.

    The children were often placed in foster homes. This is because if the children are removed. The children becomes award of the state.  Thus the state can start to build a case against parents.

    When the state could not find a real reason to terminate the parental rights of the "true and natural" parents. The states came up with the most simple reason to terminate the rights of the parents . This ground is known as "the best interest of the child" doctrine.

    It requires only the preponderance of the evidence given to the state for termination of parental rights. While other grounds required far more stronger grounds to terminate.

    Roy and I loved Rebecca. We gave her only what was needed. Nothing more and nothing less.  She had a roof over her head, clothes on her back, she was receiving pre-school education for special needs children.

    Fairfax County DSS and The Commonwealth of Virginia created a mountain from a molehill. They made Roy look like an alcoholic and just because I had mental health history . They used that all against us.

    Fourty-Six states allow the Courts to terminate parental rights on the grounds of mental illness and defiency and alcoholism.

    There is a handful that does not allow it to take place.

    Fairfax County Virginia DSS gave Roy and me an impossible service plan to complete like Child Protection Services gives parents now across the country.

    Failing to complete said plan can and will result in the termination of parental rights.  This will free your children and make them eligible for adoption.

    Child Protection Services is not about saving children. Reunification of families. It is about the destruction of the "true and natural" family. 

    Child Protection Services is about Federal Dollars to the states when the state completes so many termination of parental rights and finding the children that were created legal orphans a new family which the state deems worthy to be a parent.

    States get paid. Foster parents and adopters get paid.  One thing - The "true and natural" parents receive nothing. They are the losers . When everyone else is the winner.

    The pain remains that Roy and I lost Rebecca when our parental rights were terminated that November day in 1983. It would have been if the state just executed Roy and me. That is what they essentially did.

    Child Protection Services destroys lives, marriages, and happy homes.  They don't care.  Fairfax County DSS did not care.  Rebecca's guardian ad litem, did not care.

    Roy and I will never get over the pain and heart break. Our daughter is lost forever. I have tried to reunite with her.  She is a very self-centered young lady. She takes and takes, and does not give back in return.

    My advice to parent-victims of CPS.  Maybe it is better that you do not reunite with the children you lost due to CPS.   This is because the children are not given both sides of the story.

    I have never got over the lost of our daughter. My heart is still broken and my family let me down on that November day in 1983.

    I mean all entire family, i.e. Anna, My late father, and all. The only one that was not involved was my little brother, Cam.

    Roy and I will take this to our graves. We were denied the chance to be happy and to raise our child.

    I hope when Roy and I are both dead and buried in our graves. That someone in my family comes across this entry.

    We would have turned against our families.  Never ever sided with the state.

    Our families are guilty of the worse crime possible. That is the crime of turning against each other.

    Do us a favor: Roy and me. Don't cry at our graves when we can not see it. Don't give us flowers when we can not appreciate them.  You should have given this to us when we were both alive and could see it and appreciate it.

    Don't come to our funerals when you could not be there for us when we alive and needed your support on that November day in 1983. Don't shed any tears over us. They will not be geniune.

    The damage is done. The wounds never heal. The pain remains.

    Lucie Elizabeth Ann